Turned On By Sweet Talk
Since men are more visual, they can easily get aroused by the sight of a naked female body. It does not come as a surprise why a number of them can get addicted to pornography. For this reason, women who show a lot of skin can be an effective tool in marketing different products.
While women can get slightly turned on when they see a sexy male body, the effect is not as intense to how men consider nudity. This is because women are more verbal and subtle in the things that turn them on.
Though you can get hot by the sight of your wife’s breast, your nude form will probably not have a similar effect on her. Don’t feel rejected thinking that she doesn’t find you attractive or she is no longer interested in you. It is just that her naked body has an effect on you that is more intense than what your nude body is to her.
On the contrary, sweet conversations between the two of you and reminiscing about the times you’ve spent together like a romantic date in a restaurant may, as a matter of fact, arouse your wife. That is the way women are, no matter how crazy it may seem.
For this reason, a con artist that has a way with words can easily lure women despite his being unattractive whereas a handsome guy who does not have much to say will less likely be taken seriously by a woman. The way to turn on your wife is through flowers or a romantic dinner by candlelight. This will win her over instead of your sexual fantasies.
If you want to arouse a woman all the more, you should learn how to sweet-talk her. This goes the same with your wife.
I would like to share one more secret: As time passes, you will learn that whispering a suggestion to the ear of your wife can turn her on. But be discreet because women may feel uneasy about other people eavesdropping, though the nearest person is far from sight. When you whisper in a way that only she can hear, she will surely turn hot inside.
As you lean over to whisper into her ear, let the back of your hand slightly touch her breasts, making it seem as if it happened by accident.
Let it appear that you had no intention of doing it and you were not aware of this. Women get easily turned on by the slightest touch. As you whisper into the ear of your wife, allow your knuckle to caress her breast for a moment and see how it turns her on.
Before you head on to take a crack at this strategy, you have to remember to exercise some finesse and you should grab the chance when you can. This requires perfect timing ,….. Keep in mind, though, that whispering a suggestion may not be a wise thing to do when your wife is not in the right mood.
What I suggest is that you just save this great tool for the perfect moment, when the timing is right. Though you don’t want the chance to pass you by, you don’t want to look aggressive.
It may take some time and effort but as you spend quality time with your wife, you will develop new sexual abilities and therefore, know the right time to use this strategy.
When your wife has developed an interest in sex and you are both cozy in bed, you can be open with each other as you talk about making love. You can exchange chat about the things you enjoy.
As long as you don’t delay the sexual act with chat, this will turn her on and you will know how to make it a more pleasurable experience. But if she gets bored talking about these, you could try other strategies. Keep in mind that every woman has her own preference.
The best thing about an monogamous relationship is that you are free to play along with the music of love, to know the right keys to strike to nurture your relationship and to learn new notes to enhance sexual pleasure for both of you.
Ways to Behave
There are several ways to turn-on a woman and some can be effective for your wife. You have to remember that it is not enough to love her. You have to, regularly, express your love for her as a proof.
When a woman feels loved, she becomes a great lover. On the other hand, when she does not feel secure in your love, this affects her performance in bed.
This says that you have to constantly remind your wife about your respect for her. Show how much you want to please her. If this doesn’t work, you have to know the reason and straighten things out. You can both seek the help of a marriage councilor.
If things are not right between you and your wife, things will not go on smoothly in your relationship.
Praise Her
Praise her but only if you mean what you say. Since women are verbal, they have a way of telling if you are lying or not. They can read you like a book when it comes to the tone of your voice and body language.
You will only get caught when you lie. Nothing turns a woman off, more than a man who lies, just to have sex with her.
While spending casual moments together, when making love is not an alternative, you can ask your wife what excites her most when it comes to having sex. You can talk about this during a long drive, on the way to her parents or elsewhere.
She will be able to open up without fear that it would lead to sex, in case she is not in the mood for it. Listen to her carefully, to know more about her likes and dislikes plus her sexual fantasies. Keeping these in mind, try to please her the next time you make love.
In case you wife is too shy to open up to you; there is a way of asking questions, which will make her respond. Ask her about her deepest desires and ways to fulfill them. Discover the things that need to be changed in your lovemaking.
Even the smallest details in everything you do may mean a lot to her. These include the time you spend in foreplay, how often you French kiss or how fast you are able to penetrate during intercourse.
All these can make a big difference in her satisfaction and her response to having sex with you. When you know what she wants, you can fulfill her innermost desires. She will always look forward to making love with you and both of you will enjoy every moment of it.
Since women are verbal, your wife can easily get turned on when you get her to talk openly about sex. This doesn’t mean, though, that this should be your main purpose for bringing up the topic. You have to remember this.
Perfect Timing
It is important to note that while men are ready to jump into bed the moment they are given the go signal, women tend to prepare themselves before making love. It may take hours, a day or even more.
So, before that special moment, you need to do the necessary, hours or days before, to warm her up. Before you get her into bed, take the slow approach. Try sweet nothings like giving a romantic kiss at the start of the day or calling her from work to say that you love her.
On that night, invite her to a romantic place.
Add romance to every single moment.
It doesn’t matter if you are on your 30th year of marriage; you still have to pursue your wife as if it was your first date. More importantly, create the mood for her every time you want to make love. This way, she will look forward to the special event.
As she feels more romantic, reserved sex will turn into something wild. If this is what you long for, then by all means, engage in verbal and emotional foreplay to bring your wife into ecstasy. Then she, too, will take you to high heavens, where you have never been before.
It is just as simple as complimenting her with a statement that goes, “You are so beautiful tonight” or “I can’t help but notice the twinkle in your eyes”. Just be sure that you really mean it. Compliment her for all the wonderful features that you love about her.
If she spent some time in fixing her hair and looks, let her be aware that you notice that.
If she chose to wear a dress that you like on her, mention it. When you make her feel good, she will be sweeter and romantic to you. Don’t pass on any chance you have.
Even after you’ve made love, continue to compliment her. You should maintain the sweetness or else, she may think that you said those words only for the sake of having sex.
Still, there are more points that can be won after making love. If you have studied about the ways of women, you would know that most of them like to be held after having sex.
If your wife is like this, then do what it takes to take care of her needs. When you do this, she will, likewise, do everything to fulfill your needs.
You should keep in mind that people may change at any point in time. They may develop new tastes and likes. So, what turns on your wife at this moment may not be as arousing after some time.
You should always maintain an open communication with your wife. You should find out what she loves to do and what she doesn’t want.
Don’t even think for once that when you make love to her and she enjoys it, this will make her lust for the same sexual encounter every time.
Just like every one else, your wife will get tired of the same old practice. Diversity is the secret to a happy sex life.
Keep your communication line open with your wife so you can continue to learn about her. This way, you would be aware of her changing needs and you can share yours, as well. If she wants to venture into new things, you should be able to provide them since you are the love of her life.
With you as her prince charming, she will not seek someone else to fantasize about. When a woman is satisfied, she will not seek friendship or emotional support from other men. It is, also, less likely for her to have an affair.
When a man works hard at satisfying his wife’s needs, our society will see less of affairs, office romances and one-night stands.
Nowadays, women are more prone to having extramarital affairs. While there may be different reasons behind these, the most common ones are perhaps the lack of communication and failure to satisfy the needs of their wives.
EROTIC TALK
It is easy for some women to get turned on by erotic talk. There are a few, though, who don’t. You can do a bit of experimenting and try this with your wife. You will be able to tell immediately if it works.
Perhaps, the best way to find out is by asking her about it, assuring her that you will stop when it does not make her feel comfortable. But if your wife likes it because she is verbal like all other women, you will learn that some phrases can serve as a powerful tool of seduction.
The secret words that will arouse your wife will have to rely on both of you. You have to patiently try different phrases and see what works.
The secret is in the way your deliver. You will not be able to impress if you act s a schoolboy who has been caught writing on the walls of the bathroom. So, practice in a place where you won’t be heard. Remember the saying that practice makes perfect.
Try all the words that you can think of and practice saying them aloud but when you are alone. You can do this in the shower, on the way home or in any quiet space where you can‘t be heard.
Don’t restrict yourself to using simple terms. Be imaginative and sound poetic. Make use of figurative language in describing your organs and sexual encounter.
You can compare your wife’s vagina to a beautiful and fragrant flower waiting for the bee (your penis). Just make sure that you don’t giggle as you say this.
These choices of words are more powerful than just using plain, simple descriptions. You can score extra points for your creativity. So, think about it and practice with your speech. Once you get the hang of it, you can say them to your wife.
As you deliver your choice of words, don’t forget to whisper them into her ear so she won’t worry that anyone else may hear. As a woman’s ears are a bit sensitive, whispering may all the more excite her and set the mood for intimacy.
Try to test whether a very intimate whisper, when delivered in some place that is public, will excite her or not. It is your duty to discover the best combination to make the magic work.
When you have difficulty in finding the right choice of words, jot down all the possible things you can think of with regards to your penis, tongue and testicles. Also, write down everything imaginable about her breasts, vagina, butt plus all the things you find attractive, like her eyes, lips and feet, as well.
Do you still need help?
In that case, check with the reference desk of the library if it has books of phrases that are meant for writers. A perfect example is the Professional Writer’s Phrase Book by Jean Kent.
Look it up and see what it has to offer with regards to euphemisms of private parts and sex acts. Phrases like “Ride me like a stallion” or “Run your fingers all across my body as I suck your nipples” may be the magic words that will arouse her senses.
On the other hand, if your wife is fond of romantic novels, you can use some phrases in the steamy passages they contain. Be careful, though, not to pick any recent book she has read because she may find the lines too familiar.
Create sentences out of your chosen phrases then practice delivering them for several times until you become used to saying them. This way, you can become confident in delivering these lines and they will just come out naturally.
If you are not comfortable in saying them live, you can record your lines on her voicemail but not the one she uses at work since this may be monitored. You can, also, choose to put them down in writing.
Use your creativity.
Your wife, probably, has her own fantasies about your sexual encounters with each other. When you agree to push through with your meeting of sorts later in the evening (since you may be both working, it is logical to schedule your appointments), you can make it look more professional by making phone calls to let her prepare for the big event.
To remind her, you can send an email, while keeping in mind that her boss and co-workers may read your message.
In the midst of prying eyes, you and your wife can agree on using codes whenever you send an email or leave messages at her office voice-mail.
Being a married couple permits you to use steamy language unlike a couple carrying an illicit affair. Marriage gives you a right to do anything as you please and you have to make the most out of it.
When you make a personal call to your wife, it is very explicit as compared to sending an email.
Why don’t you try it?
Words should be carefully thought of and when it comes to erotic talk, men differ from women. While both like to be flattered and receive compliments about their sexuality, men are more into graphic details.
Women, on the other hand, are sentimental. They would like to hear words like;” I can’t forget your lovely breasts and flawless skin”. Whereas, you would like to hear her say “It feels so good having you inside me”.
Nevertheless, both men and women love to hear words such as “I’m crazy for you,” “I want you badly right now,” “You are oozing with sex appeal,” and the most powerful of all, “Yes”.
Keep in mind that these lines are the ones generally used. The best way to know what words work for your wife is to put different lines into a test and see what are most effective while dropping those that don’t have any bearing.
Work hard at it and before you know it, you’ll be able to collect words that will leave her feeling breathless and weak on the knees. All your efforts will not go to waste, after all.
