One of the key components of controlling arousal is breathing control / regulation. Breathing is a unique bodily function in that it can be controlled by the autonomous system (without your help), or directly by your conscious mind. If you practice your breathing exercises, eventually you’ll be able to control your heart beat; which has an important role to play in arousal.
The main point is, controlling your breathing will assist you in lasting much longer in the bedroom.
Breathing the ‘Right’ Way
Let’s look at some techniques you can use to develop breath control during sexual congress. A lot of guys seem to favor faster and shorter breaths when they are engaging in sexual activity. It is kind of a no-no, all it does is get you even more excited and aroused. The end result is a premature ejaculation, mostly due to the increase in hormone levels. So it is important to develop a steady and slow rate in order to control arousal.
The ‘deepness’ of your breathing, isn’t as important as how often you breathe. For most guys a 3 to 5 second delay between each breath seems to be just right. Maintain control and don’t let the pace quicken; we’re talking slow and deliberate here.
It is also important that you learn to use your diaphragm. Your diaphragm is the muscle that allows your lungs to function the way they do. A lot of people seem to think that they can simply suck in air in large gasps; but that isn’t really the way that it works.
Breathing in that way actually removes a lot of the power in your breathing, and as a result, disrupts your level of calmness. The truth is, using your chest, nose or mouth to breathe isn’t at all necessary. All you need to do is simply push out your diaphragm and let your body do the rest.
When using your diaphragm appropriately, you shouldn’t have to do anything more than expanding or pushing out your upper abdomen. Your diaphragm is located directly above your abdomen. Your abdominal muscles aren’t actually involved in the process, so keep them as relaxed as possible. A diaphragm driven breathing session can be extremely refreshing and rejuvenating.
The best breathing technique for delaying ejaculation (Part 1)
Here is a step-by-step guide:
1. Sustain slow, medium depth breathing as covered earlier. I can’t stress how important this step is.
2. Once every minute to 30 seconds or so, close your eyes and take the deepest breath available to you.
3. Hold in that breath in for around 5 seconds and then slowly release it
4. As you are closing your eyes remember to concentrate fully on your breathing only. Really get inside your individual breaths, become lost in your own world. During this time you should be clear of any other thoughts (especially thoughts related to sex).
Halting stimulation during this time is not prerequisite, but it’s probably better if you do. If performed every minute or so, this simple breathing technique will not only keep you calm, it will also control your arousal level. As we’ve seen before, a high level of arousal will undoubtedly lead to ejaculation. When it comes right down to it, arousal is purely mental, that’s why these breathing techniques work so well. Through them you are able to maintain your erection while at the same time distracting yourself long enough to lower your arousal.
If your premature ejaculation is quite severe, use these techniques more often. If it isn’t as severe, use them sparingly or when arousal hits its peak. This is a very useful method, and it is really easy to integrate into your sexual vocabulary. When combined with ‘PM muscles training and relaxation’, ejaculation control will become an even easier task to master.
The best breathing technique for delaying ejaculation (Part 2)
Synchronize your breathing.
This technique should be performed continuously during sexual activities. It is deceptively simple, but easy to master.
1. When sexually engaged, the penis enters and exits the vaginal canal in a particularly rhythmic manner.
2. The idea is to synchronize your breathing with each thrust
3. Exhale going in.
4. Inhale going out.
You don’t have to literally inhale / exhale for every thrust. What you want to achieve is a slower breathing rate than that of your thrusting. So, for every 5 thrusts apply the information outlined in the 4 steps above. Slow and deliberate breathing is crucial for delaying ejaculation.
Inhaling applies strain on the pelvic area and lower abdomen, and in turn, applies weight to the prostate and PC muscle. It should be known that applying pressure to these sensitive regions can immediately trigger orgasm. So ejaculation is less of a possibility when you are exhaling than when you are inhaling. Do your inhaling when you are less stimulated, for example; when you are pulling out. You will probably discover that inhalation is more natural-feeling when done in this manner.
The best breathing technique for delaying ejaculation (Part 3)
Triangular Breathing Technique.
This is a commonly used technique in Yoga and perhaps other eastern practices. It is designed to bring on an improved state of consciousness and relaxation. Since it helps relieve stress, it can work wonders for relieving and treating the anxiety issues that lead up to premature ejaculation. In addition to its calming effects, Seratonin production is reinforced as well.
How to perform the triangular breathing technique: (the actual number of seconds implemented may vary from person to person, you will need to find your own ‘magic number’)
Inhale for 3 seconds.
Hold for 3 seconds.
Exhale for 3 seconds.
With this technique you are learning to breathe in intervals, specifically in structures of 3. It is a very old and useful technique.
You should choose any length of time between 2 and 6 seconds for your exercise; just remember to keep them all at equal length. Gravitate towards whatever you consider to be most comfortable. You may begin by actually counting the seconds, but eventually you will get the hang of it without having to actually count. As arousal levels increase, you might want to resume counting; this acts as a nice distraction and prevents you from going to far over the edge.
You can use this technique as a sexual aid for its calming effects. But don’t forget the importance of breathing by itself, and trying to gather greater control over your body.
Consistent breathing is what is most important during sex. As your nerves or anxiety interferes, you may lose control of the situation; the breathing techniques are for learning to combat this situation. Remember, the more you do it the better you’ll become. These breathing techniques will open up a whole new world of sexual play to you, or help you rediscover it.
The more aware you are of your breathing the better. Keep it at a medium depth and at a slow pace. Stay relaxed, and you will last a lot longer in the bedroom
You may also want to experiment with different combination of breathing styles; through the nose, mouth, or in some combination for example. The point is to remain as calm as possible. The general consensus seems to state that the nose is more restricting and the mouth offers greater control; I recommend using both in combination, have fun.